选择的重要性不言而喻,但我给出的方案只有一条:要么抛硬币,要么提能力。提能力大家都知道什么意思,这里的抛硬币指的是哪个都行。下面让我们一起深入看看吧。
1 选择意味着什么?
选择并不意味着你会得到什么,相反,选择意味着失去。如果你花一样的价钱,半个苹果和整个苹果,你会选择选择哪个?答案毫无疑问。这当中几乎没有选择,因为你不会失去什么。一般只有下面这种情况你才会选择,A与B是同类的产品,A有你喜欢的地方,也有你不喜欢的地方;B同样是你喜欢的产品,有你喜欢的地方,也有你不喜欢的地方。此时才有选择。所以我们说,选择的过程,实质是放弃的过程。Choosing doesn’t mean what you’ll gain, on the contrary, choosing means losing. If you paid the same price, half an apple or a whole apple, which would you choose? There are few options in this because you have nothing to lose. Generally speaking, you will only choose in the following cases, A and B are the same kind of products, A has what you like, and there are things you don’t like, and B is the same product you like, there are places you like, and there are places you don’t like. That’s when you have a choice. Therefore, we say that the process of choice is essentially a process of abandonment.
2 站的再高些 2 Stations are a little higher
对于选择,有的时候是因为我们看的不够清晰。就像在森林里迷路了,我们不知道正确的方向。此时我们怎么办?我们会找一个相对高一些的地方。等到我们处在更高处的时候,眼前一切便清晰了。同样的,在我们生活中有些选择,是因为我们无法看清,或者能力不足。Sometimes it’s because we don’t see it clearly. It’s like getting lost in the forest, we don’t know the right direction. What do we do at this point? We’re going to find a place that’s relatively high. When we are on a higher ground, everything is clear before us. In the same way, there are choices in our lives because we are unable to see clearly, or we are not able to do so.
3 保持困惑 3 Stay confused
有的时候,不是因为我们能力不足,也不是我们看不清,单纯是困惑。一个人想把自己抬起来,他坚信自己可以,所以每天空余的时间,都会来到一片空地,试图把自己抬起来,并且锻炼肌肉,做各种事情。周围的人觉得他是傻瓜,因为一个人不可能把自己抬起来。那个人也困惑了,因为他没能把自己抬起来。
是的,这就是你现在正在做的事情,也是你为什么会困惑的原因,因为你将欲望锚定在一件不可能的事情上。现在有两个软件,一个轻量,简洁;另一个复杂,功能多。但你在大量里臆想了一个简洁、轻量、功能多的软件,然后你想找这么一个东西,然后你就困惑了——因为你找不到。这东西根本不存在,他只存在于你的大脑里。
所以,看清什么是事情,什么只是你的想象,这非常重要。是的,你会困惑,但不要等到你的困惑结束后,再开始行动。而是带着困惑,一起出发。在行动的过程中,你在大脑里构建的“完美臆想”会慢慢消失,最终你会找到自己满意的东西。不是因为他是完美的,而是你的偏见消失了。
4 决策树,一个不靠谱的方法
决策树是一种理性决策的方法,这种方法有他的作用,不过同样有很大的局限。就好像选择苹果还是梨子?今天你给苹果打60分,梨子打70分,所以你今天选择了梨子。明天你觉得梨子不好吃,只能打40分,而苹果不变,然后第二天选择了苹果。这是决策树不靠谱的根本原因。尽管他列出的点是客观的,但是“加权“这种事情,完成是主观的。这种方法虽说是理性的方法,但人的理性是为感性服务的,而你的感情总是在变化,所以还是不靠谱。当你喜欢苹果的时候,你会列出使用Iphone的20个理由,安卓全是槽点;当你喜欢安卓的时候,你会列出安卓的20个优点,然后苹果全是槽点。根据这个观点,所以不要在意我推荐什么,也不要盲目轻信任何人的推荐,这就是原因。(也是我为什么基本不写“生产力工具”的原因)Decision trees are a method of rational decision-making, which has its own use, but it also has significant limitations. It’s like choosing an apple or a pear? Today you give an apple a 60 and a pear a 70, so you choose a pear today. Tomorrow you think the pears are not tasty and can only score 40 points, while the apples remain the same, and then you choose the apples the next day. This is the root cause of the unreliability of decision trees. Although the points he lists are objective, the completion of such things as “weighting” is subjective. Although this method is a rational method, human rationality is at the service of sensibility, and your feelings are always changing, so it is still unreliable. When you like Apple, you list 20 reasons to use Iphone, Android is all slots, and when you like Android, you list 20 advantages of Android, and Apple is all slots. According to this point of view, so don’t care what I recommend, and don’t blindly trust anyone’s recommendations, here’s why. (That’s why I basically don’t write “productivity tools”)
5 最后
生活就是这样,永远没有完美的方案。要么提能力,要么抛硬币。不要在犹豫中花费过多时间,生命转瞬即逝。你应该花费更多的时间在行动,在体验;而不是停留在犹豫和比较中。更重要的是,这犹豫不决的东西,很可能是一些对生命无关紧要的东西。Life is like this, there is never a perfect solution. Either raise the ability or flip a coin. Don’t spend too much time in hesitation, life is fleeting. You should spend more time in action and experience than in hesitation and comparison. What’s more, this hesitation is likely to be something that doesn’t matter to life.